Monday, February 22, 2010
Age creeps up our spine when we’re not paying attention. It also manages to eradicate all those artificial walls that we construct to keep us safe. We’re not really safe. We’re just busy having kids, perusing careers, trying to stay fit, beautiful and healthy – trying to live – trying to live really well! We know we’re going to get there one day even though today it doesn’t seem that way.
At midlife, when the walls fall away – when our children leave home, the mountains we were trying to climb don’t seem quite so important anymore, our bodies begin to defy the efforts we have dispensed trying to keep them perpetually young and perfect no longer hold back the signs of age and deterioration or the neglect we have visited on them begins to show – when all those things we have constructed to build ourselves and our lives are done, we are left with ourselves and our shadows.
Midlife can be a glorious time if we face those shadows – those things that have tailed and haunted us all our lives. Taking this time to stare down our demons without distraction can allow us, for the very first time, to put them in front of us so that we can watch and control them and no longer let them control us.
Letting down the wall may just be the job we were meant to undertake at this time in our lives. Stepping out from the shadows and into the light of day – allowing the sun to shine upon our faces and our hearts, freeing our essential selves to be exactly who we were meant to be can help us discern our purpose for walking the planet and put real meaning behind all that has gone before.